Have You Taken A Break?

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All the time you see unmarried couples get to the point where they “take a break.”

Let’s face it, we have all been there in one relationship or another; and typically some unfortunate stuff happens during these “breaks.” The first error we typically make is advertising the fact that we are on a break in our relationship with our significant other. This error opens up the gate for all the problems to follow–––guys, you know what I’m talking about. Girls will start messaging you and liking your pictures on Facebook; not that men are innocent. Ladies, guys will start texting you and spittin’ game every chance they get, trying to hang out. In the end, this only causes strife and complications in your relationship that is now potentially on the fence.

Let’s be real for a minute–––we all get tired of our boyfriend or girlfriend and unfortunately we get to the point where a “break” seems to be the only solution; even in “Christian” relationships. Has God offered a solution to this problem?

My girlfriend, Tida and I have taken breaks several times throughout our relationship together. Whether it was because we got frustrated with each other or because we felt we needed to take time to focus more on the Lord. Is it possible this concept of taking a break is actually biblical? Yes, I do believe it is. 1 Corinthians 7:5 (NKJV) says:

[box_light]“Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self control.”[/box_light]

While yes, I have taken this verse slightly out of context as it applies to a married couple, the concept is still a healthy one. Try talking with your man or woman introducing the concept and verse. I have found this to be extremely beneficial in my relationship with Tida; it’s perfect.

If we get tired of each other or just simply feel like we need our own time with God, we take a break and fast from each other for a short time. During this time we give our extra attention that would normally be spent on each other, to God. Instead of talking on the phone at night for an hour, I’ll dive into the word or get into prayer to replace the time I would’ve invested into Tida.

It’s beautiful! We take a short break, go deeper with God and then come together again and share what each other has learned. This can also help improve a stagnant relationship if you’re looking for the next step to grow together with God. Relational fasting has been extremely beneficial to my relationship with my girlfriend and also with God; keeping us in check and making sure we never become complacent.

I want to encourage you: if you’re in a relationship, give this a go. It can’t hurt, right? It’s never wrong to invest more time into God and make sure He’s still the focal point of your relationship to begin with. Love ya’ll!

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