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Be a Man and Act More Feminine
Photo: Carole Felmy
Society has done a lot to cultivate certain ideas about gender roles within relationships. As men, we are fed misconceptions which we then hold to be truth. Men are always supposed to be the strong ones. Men don’t talk about their feelings. Men don’t do housework. Men don’t raise the children. Well, if this is what it means to be a man, then I would say it is time to man-up and act more feminine.
IT’S OK TO OPEN UP
I know you’ve heard it before, but some things are cliche because they are true… relationships require communication. Talk. Open up. Share your thoughts, dreams, and fears. Nothing will ruin a relationship faster than a lack of communication.
Talk about your feelings. You don’t always have to be the “strong one.” Everyone has times in their life where they need to lean on someone else. I’m not saying you have to be an emotional basket case, but don’t be ashamed of expressing how you feel. Women want a man whose not afraid to say he needs them.
Share your thoughts, dreams, and fears. Nothing is worse than feeling like you are going through life alone. Discuss the things that are on your mind. Share your excitement about goals and dreams. Talk about what fears you face. Don’t be afraid to admit that you don’t have it all figured out (after all, none of us do).
HOUSEWORK DOES NOT EQUAL WOMEN’S WORK
Men, this may seem like an insignificant issue, but step up and share in the responsibilities. Clean up after yourself. After a romantic dinner together, blow her away and do the dishes.
Whether your married or living in your bachelor pad, your floor does not equal your hamper, and your mommy, girlfriend, or wife does not have to do the laundry.
I have been constantly reminded of the impact that the simple act of sharing in the housework can have. On several occasions, I have heard my wife tell someone how much it means to her when I help out without being asked or complaining. I think you’ll be shocked with what these simple acts can mean.
To all the husbands out there, if you really want to shock her, vacuum… mop… dust… clean the bathroom… trust me, the rewards can very much be in your favor. Someday, my daughter will be very embarrassed by my sharing, but we wound up with her because I painted the house.
DADS, THEY NEED YOU TOO
To the dads who happen upon this article (or those who want to be a dad someday), share in the joy of raising your kids. Change the diapers. Rock them to sleep. Sit down to tea parties. Take them to the park. Let them see you helping around the house. Tell them how much you love them and their mommy. Make sure they (and your wife) come before work, friends, the game on TV, golf, or anything else. Everyone needs to relax once in a while, but make sure they know they are a priority.
ABOVE ALL, PLACE GOD FIRST
This one doesn’t fit the title, but I cannot write about relationships without bringing it up. In a world were we are afraid of sounding cheesy or weird if we talk about God, take a stand. Place Him first and everything else will fall into place.
If you’re single and looking, pray that you will be the man deserving of the woman God brings into your life.
If you are dating, pray that God will protect your relationship. Pray that His will for your relationship will be clear. Pray that purity will remain within your relationship.
If your married, pray that you and your spouse will remain in His will. Pray that He will protect your marriage in the midst of a world where marriages are crumbling around you.
Wherever you are in life, lead by example. Strive to grow closer to the God who loves you and desires to see you succeed.
About Matt WellsMatt Wells is a born-and-raised Floridian, from Lake Worth. He currently lives in Florida with his wife, Heather, their baby daughter, Bella, and their dog, Marley. He is the author of "Fix Me, Love Them: Christianity as it Should Be", and can be found on Twitter (www.twitter.com/FixMeLoveThem), and Facebook (www.facebook.com/FixMeLoveThem). He can also be reached at FixMeLoveThem@gmail.com
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Verse of the Week
––1 Thessalonians 5:21 (ESV)