#12in12: Andy Stanley’s Controversial Decision

[colored_box color=”grey”]Ed. Note: Happy Holidays, Quarterlifers! We’re really excited about QM’s new look; I hope you are as well. In honor of a great 2012 and and even better 2013 to come, we are doing #12in12, a tribute to the twelve best stories of this year. If you have an opinion of what you liked, let us know via Facebook or Twitter.

–Thanks, JS[/colored_box]


 

2. Andy Stanley’s Controversial Decision

by Jayson Schmidt – May 11, 2012

Nothing says controversy like Andy Stanley and how the church reacts to homosexuality. This article was easily the most commented piece of work on Quarterlife Man this year. In fact, it still even gets comments to this day. We love engagement and interaction; this well-written piece of work was the perfect example… and that’s why it’s our #1 post of 2012.


I’m a big fan of Andy Stanley. I listen to his podcast weekly, read his books and often view sermons on his church’s website. He is an excellent communicator and has an amazing ability of considering the people Jesus specifically spoke to while focusing in on the context of the situation, which leads to getting the most out Jesus’s words. I admire that skill greatly. Recently however, one of Andy’s illustrations has caused quite the stir in churches and fired off (what Albert Mohler calls) a “shot heard round the world”.

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#12in12: The Myth Of “The Friend Zone”

[colored_box color=”grey”]Ed. Note: Happy Holidays, Quarterlifers! We’re really excited about QM’s new look; I hope you are as well. In honor of a great 2012 and and even better 2013 to come, we are doing #12in12, a tribute to the twelve best stories of this year. If you have an opinion of what you liked, let us know via Facebook or Twitter.

–Thanks, JS[/colored_box]


 

2. The Myth Of “The Friend Zone”

by Jayson Schmidt – January 16, 2012

All of this talk about the friend zone had to finally be rebuked, and in the post it was. Relationships and friendships are never black and white.


Stop right now. Just stop it.

I know what you’re going to say…

“I read the title and I’m going to pre-judge!! There is a friend zone! Ryan Reynolds was brilliant in a movie about it!!!”

See? I read your mind. And I know… there was a movie called Just Friends and Ryan Reynolds wasbrilliant. But let me dig into this topic a little bit first:

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#12in12: Naked Women: Where Are You?

Ed. Note: Happy Holidays, Quarterlifers! We’re really excited about QM’s new look; I hope you are as well. In honor of a great 2012 and and even better 2013 to come, we are doing #12in12, a tribute to the twelve best stories of this year. If you have an opinion of what you liked, let us know via Facebook or Twitter.

–Thanks, JS


 

3. Naked Women: Where Are You?

by Jayson Schmidt – December 30, 2011

Although published two days before 2012, this post still makes the cut. Purity is a struggle for any man, myself included. This was an introspective look at how I deal with naked imagery and if you struggle with that too, you need to read this.


As a man, I have always struggled with purity.

Though never sexually active–––unless, like me, you struggle to define what ‘sexually active’ truly is… and then maybe I was–––I have always struggled with the flesh. I’m sure you have too.

For awhile, I had no idea what purity truly was. I knew not to have sex… but I didn’t know why not to have sex.

And then I learned. I learned that what I will share with my future wife is one of the most intimate things that God has created for this earth. I also learned that this intimacy is multiplied if you’ve stayed true to your future wife… and not gone hooking up with other women like rabbits.

Here’s the cool thing:

 

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#12in12: The Gift of Undivided Devotion

Ed. Note: Happy Holidays, Quarterlifers! We’re really excited about QM’s new look; I hope you are as well. In honor of a great 2012 and and even better 2013 to come, we are doing #12in12, a tribute to the twelve best stories of this year. If you have an opinion of what you liked, let us know via Facebook or Twitter.

–Thanks, JS


 

4. The Gift of Undivided Devotion

by Jennifer Stoltzfus – February 13, 2012

This was Jenn’s first post, and although it took some prodding to finally get it onto Quarterlife Man, I’m 100% thankful that she wrote it. It’s full of Scripture, full of truth, and all in all just great writing. You will be better for reading it if you haven’t already.


It is always a privilege for me to share my heart through words. Whether they are written or spoken, it is truly my deepest joy. What I usually don’t have the privilege of doing, however, is sharing my heart to an audience that primarily consists of men. Though I am admittedly out of my comfort zone, I am excited to join this journey and walk it with you. Please know that I come seeking only to encourage you with the Word of God… nothing more and nothing less. I hope that by His grace I will do so.

If given the platform to an audience of men, there is much I would have to say. I would tell you that women are not a game to be won, so don’t make them one. I would tell you that to evaluate every woman you meet as a potential spouse is bogus. I would tell you to fight for her heart and show her you are different. I would tell you to watch the words that you use because she will replay them in her mind for days, weeks, and even months to come. I would tell you to value her as your sister in Christ far before you think about anything else (and if she’s not your sister in Christ you’ve got a whole other issue to overcome).

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#12in12: The Circle of Friends

Ed. Note: Happy Holidays, Quarterlifers! We’re really excited about QM’s new look; I hope you are as well. In honor of a great 2012 and and even better 2013 to come, we are doing #12in12, a tribute to the twelve best stories of this year. If you have an opinion of what you liked, let us know via Facebook or Twitter.

–Thanks, JS


 

6. The Circle of Friends

by Jayson Schmidt – April 12, 2012

If you ever need a lesson on how to maximize your moments, think back to college. Last spring, I did that with this post. It’s wild to consider how quickly time flies and how quickly those who were the best of friends are now relegated to mere acquaintances. Take advantage of the time you have (and read this article).


The circle of friends.

This is an article I began writing in last August, but was lost to the depths of time–––kind of like how are friendships are: here one moment and gone the next. Like any good thing, this deserves resurrection.

It was 2006. My college roommate and I were discussing how transient our friendships were, although I am certain we weren’t saying ‘transient’ at the time. Our perception was that friendships, as in life, are truly fleeting. We would meet people, hang out with them for weeks, and then move on. This happened over and over again in a cyclical nature; we called it “the circle of friends.”

The people who entered our lives as friends for a season exited just as quickly. In fact, even my relationship with that college roommate later waned, bearing proof to the idea that our relationships are short lived.

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#12in12: The Tragedy of Soviet Apartment Buildings

Ed. Note: Happy Holidays, Quarterlifers! We’re really excited about QM’s new look; I hope you are as well. In honor of a great 2012 and and even better 2013 to come, we are doing #12in12, a tribute to the twelve best stories of this year. If you have an opinion of what you liked, let us know via Facebook or Twitter.

–Thanks, JS


 

7. The Tragedy of Soviet Apartment Buildings

by Chris Horst – June 22, 2012

Go figure. A 368 word post on a late Friday morning turned into the most trafficked day in Quarterlife history. Thanks to the help of some loyal Redditors in the economics forum, an average Friday afternoon placed thousands more of their friends on a Christian website. Again, go figure.


Perhaps the most enduring symbol of the Soviet experiment is their architecture. During the spring of 2007, I lived in an oft-forgotten corner of Romania, working to expand HOPE’s work into the country. As with all former Soviet republics, Romania’s cities are filled with massive apartment blocks, exemplified in this picture which was taken from the window of the apartment where I lived.

They aren’t pretty. These concrete, gray monstrosities line every street, each one in a different state of disrepair. Not only do they blight these communities, but it also made navigating Romanian cities a nightmare (try finding your apartment when all the buildings are carbon-copies of one another).

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#12in12: Knights in Shining Armor Need Not Apply

Ed. Note: Happy Holidays, Quarterlifers! We’re really excited about QM’s new look; I hope you are as well. In honor of a great 2012 and and even better 2013 to come, we are doing #12in12, a tribute to the twelve best stories of this year. If you have an opinion of what you liked, let us know via Facebook or Twitter.

–Thanks, JS


 

9. Knights in Shining Armor Need Not Apply

by Brittany Miller – January 12, 2012

This article, published last January, was the first from ‘ole B. She graduated from this great piece to our Coffee Shop Talk feature, which we all dearly miss. Enjoy what lies below and send her some encouragement!


All of us ladies have been told since we were little to hold out for our “Prince Charming,” to be swept away on a valiant steed by our “Knight in Shining Armor.”

Well, I’m about to rip the flood gates open on that load of crap… so gentlemen, pay close attention.

If we’re going to be honest, we have to start at the very beginning and get one thing straight.Girls are brain washed and delusional. You can thank Walt Disney and the first slumber party for that. We sit and watch these movies where the woman leads such a tragic life and magically a man makes it all better with a single kiss before the last rose petal falls.

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#12in12: When Knowing Isn’t Enough

Ed. Note: Happy Holidays, Quarterlifers! We’re really excited about QM’s new look; I hope you are as well. In honor of a great 2012 and and even better 2013 to come, we are doing #12in12, a tribute to the twelve best stories of this year. If you have an opinion of what you liked, let us know via Facebook or Twitter.

–Thanks, JS


 

10. When Knowing Isn’t Enough

by Cory Copeland – February 7, 2012

This post from Cory Copeland dissects the old saying, “When you know, you know,” and does it with truth and clarity. I remember reading this and immediately flashing over to relationships gone sour, taking what I had learned and applying it. Everyone should read this article.


When you know, you know. And when you don’t know, you still know.

This is a saying I use on an almost daily basis when people ask me for relationship advice (I know; I’m surprised as you are). I think I came up with it myself, but considering the amount of movies, music, and television I ingest, I wouldn’t doubt that I subconsciously stole it from someone (as long as it wasn’t Nickelback…).

Regardless, this saying can not only be applied to most of life’s situations, but more specifically, to love. “When you know, you know…” How many times have we heard that from a freshly engaged male or female as they smile and try to explain why they’ve popped that magical question or answered yes to it. And you know what? It’s the truth. When you love someone, you know that you love them. If you aren’t sure if you love them or not, guess what “…you still know” (here’s a hint: you don’t).

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#12in12: Men Are Complicated, Women Are Complicated

Ed. Note: Happy Holidays, Quarterlifers! We’re really excited about QM’s new look; I hope you are as well. In honor of a great 2012 and and even better 2013 to come, we are doing #12in12, a tribute to the twelve best stories of this year. If you have an opinion of what you liked, let us know via Facebook or Twitter.

–Thanks, JS


 

11. Men Are Complicated, Women Are Complicated

by Aliza Rosen – February 14, 2012

Aliza’s post came to us via the female perspective and killed it. This #ValentinesWeek post was one of the many gems that came out of that week, which is why we’re excited to do it again this year.


Note: I feel prompted to paint a scenario that is descriptive enough to make a difference. Our generation was taught what ‘not to do’ in churches, but often the ‘why’ was left unanswered. This article is simply a step toward redeeming the mentality of this generation by pumping culturally relevant truth into the dialogue, with the sincere hope for a resuscitation of our values for the sake of our God.

We have it backwards. We all do. Sex and relationships in this culture makes for some serious confusion. The mixed messages make it seem impossible to do the relationship thing the “right” way. We bargain with God and ourselves. And when we bargain, we lose ground.

Many guys I’ve spoken with about the subject will generally admit that if they cross major physical boundaries with a girl, they lose interest in having a serious relationship with them. Well, what sparks the loss of interest? This physical act downgrades the ‘good girl’ he’s pursued and considered introducing to his parents, and strips her down to some chick he doesn’t want to take 5 seconds to text back because he wants her off his back…

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#12in12: Men, It’s Time to Grow Up

Ed. Note: Happy Holidays, Quarterlifers! We’re really excited about QM’s new look; I hope you are as well. In honor of a great 2012 and and even better 2013 to come, we are doing #12in12, a tribute to the twelve best stories of this year. If you have an opinion of what you liked, let us know via Facebook or Twitter.

–Thanks, JS


 

12. Men, It’s Time to Grow Up

by Jared Wallace – February 8, 2012

Jared’s post from #ValentinesWeek hit to the heart of our audience last winter. With four tips to “growing up” as men, you can’t miss this post.


Statistics indicate that the majority of young men in this country are single and it is painfully obvious why that is. As a whole, they have not grown up and still act like they’re in high school. Mark Driscoll says it best, “this world is full of boys who can shave.”

During a time of singleness in my life, I was desperately searching to find a Godly woman to make my wife. One day, it finally dawned on me that I was not ready to date someone because I was not a Godly man…

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